Investing in some adult education will give you skills you can take to the bedroom: with a partner, or just for some well-earned me-time
Say what you like about Fifty Shades of Grey – two of Melbourne’s top sex educators agree that, at the very least, the book sparked a curiosity deep inside women all over the country.
Tonight, I join an intimate group of ladies – aged from their mid-twenties to late-fifties – in the luxurious upstairs salon of Passionfruit: The Sensuality Shop, where tantric practitioner Carol is tenderly demonstrating the male erogenous zones on the body of a real-life naked male model.
“The women come in to the class laughing – they think they’re here to learn how to give a better head-job,” explains. “But then they get to the workshop and things get serious. I ask them: how do you feel about the penis?”
I’m not sure how to answer that question. But I’m pretty sure that if the carrot I’m holding was a penis, its owner would thank me for my newfound skills in the art of erotic tantric massage.
Just up the road is D.VICE, another long-standing sex shop catering for curious L-platers and hardcore kink veterans alike. Here I meet sex educator Louise Bourchier, who introduces me to her good friend and teaching assistant, Angel Bournstein. She’s named after two transgender activists and she’s a vulva puppet. “What I really want to do is develop people’s healthy sense of entitlement about being interested in sex,” she says. While Angel is invaluable in her g-spot and female orgasm workshops, tonight Bourchier will be calling on the store's dizzying range of high-end dildos, clitoral stimulators and leather-studded strap-ons for her Toys and Tips for Couples workshop.
Like Carol, Bourchier talks frankly and openly to her small audience of heterosexual and lesbian couples, demonstrating (with her hands) the very latest in pleasure-robot technology. “This one’s got so many settings on it that you can use a different one every night of the week!”